Couples Court: Does Spending Your Allowance on a Secret Fishing Trip Drift Into Unsafe Waters?
Lots of couples keep their finances strictly separate -- what they spend their own money is their own business.
But where do we draw the line? When your spouse is spending money on activities you don't know about has he crossed that line? Those are some of the questions at stake in this week's Couples Court case ...
Dear Rik and Michele:
My husband and I are on a fixed budget, but allow ourselves a weekly allowance for whatever we want. I spend my money on clothes and shoes while he usually spends his on going to local football, basketball or baseball games.
Last week, though, he spent his allowance on an all-day fishing trip on the Yakima River with two of his buddies -- but he didn't tell me about it at the time. I was outraged when I found out and said this was a form of lying. My husband said he wasn't lying because we can spend our allowance on whatever we like.
When I asked him why he didn't mention it to me he said he did it just for fun and a "change of scenery."
Keeping our individual spending personal has always been important to us, but when your spouse is spending money on things you don't even know about, isn't that a form of lying
Am I wrong to feel like he more or less cheated on me? Am I doing something that's chasing him out of the house?
Any help or advice is appreciated!
Well, Bull-Pen jurors? What's your advice to our plaintiff?